My kids show off my Best Newbie award to their friends. My son even took a picture of the two of us with me holding the trophy to post on his MySpace. They are PROUD of me.
Is it so difficult to believe that a performer would raise his/her children with an attitude of tolerance and lack of repression of sexuality based on someone else’s religious beliefs?
My children have always been aware, in an age appropriate fashion, of my job. When I was a dancer, it was simple, "Mommy dances naked and men like to watch that." My boys thought that was hysterical. When I stopped dancing in bars and started dancing private parties it was still simple, "Mommy hates smokey bars full of drunk guys and this pays more money." My kids were more comfortable with that because they knew someone I trusted to keep me safe was always with me at parties, and they knew the women I worked with (my older kids even babysat for my partner when we worked). When I started doing fetish modeling and video it was STILL simple, "Mommy doesn’t mind getting her picture taken doing this stuff, it pays very well and doesn’t take up so many hours so I have more time to be at home." My kids all think fetish porn is the funniest thing in the world.
When I moved into hardcore porn, it did take a bit of explaining. They didn’t like me traveling across the country. I had to explain why I couldn’t stay home to do it. They worried about me flying, they worried about me not having anyone I knew with me to make sure I was safe. They worried about how tired I was, they worried about how my allergies acted up.
They didn’t worry about me having sex with people on camera, because that didn’t bother me so there must not be any reason for it to bother them.
My daughter, who is having her normal teen romances asks me questions now about my feelings and sex. She wants to know how I can have sex with people I don’t love. She wants to know how I can have a relationship with someone and still have sex with others outside of that relationship. I always answer her honestly, but it boils down to one basic statement.
Sex is what I do with my body, love is what I do with my mind.
Jewel DeNyle writes: "Well no different from the Osborne’s I suppose I’m sure my future children if any as I’m not really hip to having any. But if i did have kids I’d let them know mommy lived the life of a rock star and toured the world had groupies you name it your mommy had a similar life to a rock star but mommy made erotic movies and also directed them and I’d teach my children sex isn’t a bad thing it’s natural and if they had any questions at all not to be embarrassed to ask me. You bring your children up right they will have an open mind and be free thinkers and not listen to everyone’s opinions but be able to make opinions of their own."
