On Porn
By T.B. Hunter
February 2009
On the surface, a career in porn likely seems an attractive option for young women – especially those new to the flashing lights, red carpets, celebrities, and other attractions of Los Angeles. It is certainly an easy and legal way for a woman to earn a living.
It also satisfies any young person’s desire for approval and acceptance, with men lavishing money and praise on them while admiring their naked bodies. Making whatever promises (many never kept, of course) of stardom, wealth, perhaps drugs, and the high life – whatever that young woman may want.
Of course, like much in Los Angeles, so much of what appears attractive is only skin deep. Certainly, many such young women will make the easy money that will help pay bills and credit cards, and to buy the things that all girls want – clothes, a new car, a condo or home, etc.
Before taking the plunge into the Industry, there are few who would offer advice against making that final step. I am here, however, to do just that. To offer an open letter to the girls and women considering porn as a career.
Do you plan to get married one day? To raise a family? Now think ahead, one year, five years, ten or twenty years. By that time the typical porn actress will have several dozen titles to her credit, not to mention having stills from photo shoots or even the videos themselves. These will, without fail, appear soon thereafter on Google Images, in men’s magazines, and everywhere around the world. And once that happens, there is no going back. You will never be able to undo that part of your life, to erase the pictures of you performing whatever sexual acts you might have chosen to perform – anal, oral, gangbangs, facials, you name it.
Think now, for a moment.
Are you prepared to live a life in which you will always have to think, in the back of your mind, “how am I going to explain this” to a guy you may fall in love with, or may be hoping will ask you out or to coffee or dinner – the cute guy you may see in line at the local coffee shop, or at the local college, or at a bar or club.
And how will you explain that to your children? There will come a day, like it or not, when they will be able to see your pictures online. The internet is everywhere, and it will only grow by leaps and bounds over the next year, ten and twenty years. And your exposure will grow with it. Your name, even a screen name, will always be bound to those images, which will follow you the rest of your life. Do you want to look down on that infant you are breast feeding, all the while in the back of your mind envisioning the day when you will have to explain those pictures and videos to your child… Did that guy who came on me really have a clean bill of health? Was he with some woman in the days after getting his card stamped by the Adult Industry Medical Healthcare Foundation and just decide not to mention it?
The most important thing to consider, if you think of nothing else, is that once you have taken that plunge into porn, or even nude modeling, there is no going back – ever. The pictures and videotapes of your body and sexual activities will forever be part of this world – just one click away on any search engine in which anyone can type your name.
I am not in the Industry, nor have I ever been. And to avoid any hypocrisy, I will readily admit that I (a single, 40 year old male) am an admitted consumer of porn, having watched my share of videos and films over the years (I am of the Christy Canyon/Traci Lords/Ginger and Amber Lynn era), not to mention magazines (back in the day when the internet was just a thought in the minds of computer engineers at universities and government agencies). VHS and Beta were certainly available, but, their exposure was relatively well hidden behind roped-off areas of local video stores.
I feel that porn, if used properly, can be a healthy sexual outlet. And of course there are a few adult film stars who have adapted their careers to their personal lives and have lived the lives they have chosen, without serious problems. However, how many hundreds or thousands of lives of young women have been ruined because they didn’t think ahead, with a sober mind, as to what lies beyond the paycheck and the parties…
This open letter is not a condemnation of porn, porn actors and actresses, nor even the porn lifestyle. Lord knows I have enjoyed the products of the porn industry, as I stated above. I am not a Bible-thumper, nor an anti-porn activist. This is, rather, one person’s hope that those young women considering a career in the adult industry will pause, just for a moment, to give a serious moment’s thought to the future, rather than the flash and cash of a couple hours in front of a video camera this afternoon or tonight. If they do choose this career, I do wish them the best – that they will make money, pay their taxes, and remain free of diseases and abuse at the hands of those who would promise them the stars for a few minutes of sex in front of a camera.
Absolutely true! But this is the rated G version. It’s a lot worse. Most girls leave broke, broken, and diseased with no marketable skill.
don’t be so naive Jeremy, most girls ENTER the business like that and porn only exacerbates the existing problems.
I put this same type of post on my blog and I also tell some girls this type of story….sometimes. as a male performer, its tough to think about the serious stuff like this when you are about to fuck that girl for 30 minutes.
and he didn’t say enough about the taxes, i put it at around 80 percent that don’t pay any while doing porn. I remember Naomi getting an IRS lien for like 30 grand a few years ago. good times!
Trannyfucker, Poontalk is not Steele, of course I’m not even sure if this is the real Trannyfucker.
I think you’d be surprised at how many of us go on to have very normal lives. Course that depends on your definition of “normal”.
Wow i agree with all of you. That is a first. Yes they may leave broke, broken, but Christian is right, most of them have come in that way.
Also Ruby you are right, what is normal? I assume that the writer means anyone not worried about other people finding out who they were and what they did when they were younger.
Another question these girls (and yes I call them girls, they are not women yet) should ask themselves, is how they will feel when they drop that precious child off at school one day a some Dad a staring at them knowing they have jerked off to you in the past and may still be, even tough you have left the industry.
Christian you have not been around for awhile, and POONTALK is not Jeremy, and POONTALK you were not here when we did have someone else posting as Christian. He made it clear he was christianx a long time ago.
Play nice boys!
What’s the difference how they come in?
Kay, regarding to your ‘school’ question, first of all a dad staring at a porn whore, knowing he jerked off to her some 10 years ago is the least of that whore’s problems once she leaves the adult industry; and second some of these whores take pride in something like that, and consider the fact that men jerk off to them their life achievement, they don’t feel ashamed.
You see Kay, you gotta do your home work better than this. Now bend over and grab that penny from under the table.
This story is like “Newbie Porn Warning LIGHT” Seems like The Colonel did a much more in depth hard hitting version on a similar topic a while back and a much better job. I don’t like the stuff written by those who have no true knowledge of the industry except what they heard or surmise. Oh, and Colonel, I prefer Krispy Kreme.
Larry is right. I am not POONTALK. I’m just a cock monkey with a camera.
Colonel – do my homework? You made my point. You said; some of these whores take pride in something like that.
The point is not about her it’s about the kid. It’s what that man says to other parents. I could careless if the women gets hurt. Once you become a mother it’s not about you any more.
Now who should bend over, in front of Christian!
Kissing you!!!
Yes Kay, do your home work. The point is most of these whores could care less about the possibility of their kid’s reaction to some fanboy/dad they might or might not run into some 10 years after getting out of porn. For fuck’s sake, that’s not how porn whore mentality works. I’ll give you an example of how it works:
Tiffany Mynx was a popular porn whore during the 90’s. She once said this in an interview: ‘I tend to retire from porn for the sake of my children. I don’t want to be in porn when they grow up. I don’t want them to be ashamed of their mother.’ Some decade later, she’s still taking all cocks she can get on and off camera, and besides recently she brought her 18 year old son into porn. See kay, that’s how porn whore mentality works, mother or not, that’s the nature of the beast. I don’t expect you to understand it, and I’m not defending or justifying it either. I’m just telling you how it is. Now get down and give me 20.
Miss Biatch, I love you, too.
What’s the difference how they come in?
The more troubles they have upon entering, the worse the problems get in this industry. For instance, Hailey Paige who left porn in a body bag.
Once again my Colonel you made my point. The title of the article is Newbies Consider Your Future before doing porn.
And yes I agree that many of the women in porn may not care. But as you are always saying there are many that come for a few years and are never heard from again.
Maybe they are now living in middle America, with a regular job, raising kids and trying to put the industry behind them.
We would have all loved a crystal ball at 18.
And what are you saying about giving you 20. Are you trying to tell me I’m getting fat???
The colonel is mostly right about the mentality. That only changes when the beauty fades as do all their marketable skills. When they have to depend on their talents gained in life and the circle of friends and relationships acquired they find they have none. The so called normal people will shy away from them because without even knowing about their porn past they will sense something off about there personality and most of their children will grow-up damaged and secretly ashamed because the same personality traits and choices that led to porn will also be applied to raising their offspring. Lastly most of us would not recognize a porn people without make-up unless they want to be by wearing porn garb.
No Kay, I did not make your point. The bottom line is that when a girl gets into porn, she does that for fame and fortune, to get away from an abusive step father, to support a drug junkie homeless boy friend, to… I could go on and on, but I’m sure you got the picture. What would be her child’s reaction to a fanboy/dad in the school playground 10 years down the road does not even cross her mind. You can’t sit in the comfort of your living room, in front of your computer and try to imagine what’s going on inside a porn whore’s head. That’s not how it works.
Besides, as my friend Deun mentioned, most people will NOT recognize a porn whore once the glamour and make up is off. So your imaginary porn whore shouldn’t be worried about that.
And lastly, I was clearly joking when I told you to get down and give me 20. I never said anything about you being fat. You’re beautiful just the way you are. I liked the Mexican vacation pictures you sent me, send me some more.
“The more troubles they have upon entering, the worse the problems get in this industry. For instance, Hailey Paige who left porn in a body bag.”
Is true, all the trobles they had before getting into porn will get worse once they are in porn, not better. I know someone that works in a hotline and she as talked several pornchicks out of suicide.
“The so called normal people will shy away from them because without even knowing about their porn past they will sense something off about there personality and most of their children will grow-up damaged and secretly ashamed because the same personality traits and choices that led to porn will also be applied to raising their offspring.”
Sadly that is were the most damage whores do to society. Their children. Not all are cool like Ruby! Lets to a spay a whore campaing now.
“as my friend Deun mentioned, most people will NOT recognize a porn whore once the glamour and make up is off. So your imaginary porn whore shouldn’t be worried about that.”
Sorry, sir, the ones with oversized breat implants do get recognized a lot. Even if the fanbois cannot say who they are exactly, they are made out as whores.
Rics my friend, the ones with oversized breast implants might or might not be recognized as sluts or rockstar groupies or stuck up bitches, not necessarily adult performers. All porn whores that I know, current or ex, are very good at disguising themselves and keeping a low profile at public places. That’s one thing they’re good at, so that’s nothing to be worried about. Trust me, a porn whore’s demons are far more real, serious and twisted than fanboys and dads.
Hey, there’s a retirement program, it’s called granny bangers.
Saw ex porn star Mimi Miyagi at a strip club a few years back looking particularly skanky and not in a good way. The point is I didn’t recognize until the make-up went on and the DJ announced her.
She ran for office in Nevada, governor I believe, some age better than others. I’ll probably have to pass on so my kid can be president. You teach them one very important truth, you can’t pick your parents! Kids remember your presence and your sex life doesn’t enter the picture. Kids remember feeling loved, wanted, and safe.
did amy fisher reproduce yet cus she recently entered the legitimate non-hooking sex biz.
” Trust me, a porn whore’s demons are far more real, serious and twisted than fanboys and dads.”
Sir, I know. In fact there is a couple of PWs that are outstandly self concious that I would love to convice to write about their demons.
Right on Rics.
Interesting…………..
Amy Fisher has three kids and the smallest is a baby.
“The more troubles they have upon entering, the worse the problems get in this industry. For instance, Hailey Paige who left porn in a body bag.”
If you murder someone who is suicidal, is it less of a crime?
The results of her autopsy were inconclusive. But, we know who was with her when she died. Porn made a bad relationship with parents turn into a deep estrangement that made being with someone who abused you more attractive than returning home to either parent.
“Porn made a bad relationship with parents turn into a deep estrangement that made being with someone who abused you more attractive than returning home to either parent.”
She is not the only one. That situation seems very common among porn chicks.