Kami Andrews Correction And Interview

9/15/04

From Exotica-2000.htm:

I am in my twenties. I travel back and forth from Pittsburgh to LA. I hate talking on the phone. I do not cyber! I am single! I am originally from Florida, but have made my home in the suburbs of Pittsburgh.

Kami Andrews writes Duke: "Try booking me and see what happens. I am not with them, they just havn't taken my sh-t down. I am home in PA right now, not on tour, if you want you can call my house to prove it."

I called her at 3am.

How long ago did you ask E2K to take that down?

"Last Friday, maybe. They leave them up forever. Damn it! It made me mad. I'm not saying I am not a whore. I'm just saying I don't work for E2K."

Did you have a bad experience with them?

"Not really. I don't know why they have that up there.

"I worked for them for like three days. It was ok. That's a whole 'nother story. I'm sure they're wonderful people... I just don't want everybody to go there and say, oh, she's terrible. Unclean! Unclean!"

You post a lot on the boards.

"Because I'm a dork. When I'm in Pittsburgh, I really don't do anything. I just sit here in my apartment. So I'm always on the computer."

I call Kami back Wednesday 11 a.m. "For the past two weeks, I've been taking this allergy medicine that has Ephedrin in it as a decongestant. I can't sleep anymore. I'm going to go insane. It is very hyper-making.

"I get sick every time I go out to LA. I don't smoke but I was staying with a smoker. The smoke really irritates me. The smog gets me too and makes me stuffy and sick.

"I come out to LA every other month. I'll stay for three or four weeks. I think of Pittsburgh as my home because my car is here and this is where I pay my taxes."

When you were a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?

"I wanted to be a doctor for a long time."

When did you give that up?

"Why? Because I couldn't get through organic chemistry in community college. I realized that not everybody can be an astronaut. We're not all cut out for the same thing. I was not qualified."

What did your family and friends expect of you when you were a kid?

"I've always been goofy and hyper and more of an entertainer. I think they expected me to be something very dramatic. The town I'm from [in rural Florida] everybody worked at either the hospital or Tropicana. Nobody ever becomes anything or goes anywhere."

Why do you live in Pittsburgh where it's freezing cold?

"I fell in love, like every little girl. I met a guy from Pittsburgh [at age 18] and the thing about Pittsburgh guys is that they always come home.

"We are in the process of getting a divorce right now. It will be final October 17."

How did he like your commercial sex work?

"He just found out about it. I didn't do it while we were together. The day I left him was the day I started going into it. He doesn't want to know anything. As a favor to each other, we don't talk about it. I thought he didn't know. Then, when the thing with Darren James happened, he called and said, you need to come home right now, which I had planned on doing anyway. So that is how I found out he even knew."

How long have you been doing sex work?

"About nine months. I don't do it all the time. It saves me from the same mentality as someone who might be doing it for nine months day in and day out."

When did you first do nude modeling?

"That's two or three years ago. It was bondage work. I got into it from a guy who said, oh, you should be a model. I was arrogant enough to think, oh, he means it! This isn't a ploy to get me naked.

"It started out fully clothed as glamor bondage. Then it turned into topless glamor bondage. Then it turned into nude glamor bondage. Before you know it, I'm f---ing people for money. It's a segue career."

It's like marijuana. A gateway drug.

"If you do marijuana, you'll be a heroin addict. If you do bondage modeling, you'll be a porn slut."

When did you first have sex on camera?

"When I was 15 backstage at a concert in Tampa Bay. I've since tried to get that footage and nobody admits to having it. It was a hair band, Slayer, Testament and one other act."

Who were you having sex with?

"Oh God, I was such a little tramp. A lot of people. About seven."

Were you under the influence?

"I'd been drinking. The next day at school, everyone wrote, 'Kami is a groupie slut.' It was awful. I came out with autographs for everybody, which I'd gotten backstage. I took everybody's s--- and got it signed and back to them and then somebody wrote, 'Kami is a groupie slut' all over the mirrors."

Did you have sex with any of the band members?

"Yes, I did. That was the whole point."

Was that protected sex?

"It was protected. They didn't want me suing them for babies. They were probably pulling down $20k a year back then."

At what age did you lose your virginity?

"I was ten."

Was it consensual?

"Oh yeah. My sex has always been sporadic. I'll go through long droughts, then I'll go through phases where I just can't get enough. Around 15, I was pretty active. Then I dated one guy until I was 18. I just had sex with him. We broke up. I went nuts for a month. Then I met my future husband."

Were you a groupie slut a lot?

"I was. The big thing was that we would drive up to Tampa Bay, get autographs, get our pictures taken with our big ol' hair."

And nobody you were having sex with checked your ID?

"I don't think it is normal in casual sex situations to check ID. A lot of times it would be a 21 and up show. I wouldn't hold it against them. I didn't look 15. I get carded more now than I ever did back then."

Kami has done about 50 porn videos.

"I've walked away from the bondage stuff. It's $50 an hour. You're getting tied up and you're putting yourself in more jeopardy. It's harder to verify the people you are working for because there aren't big companies..."

That girl got killed.

"That was in my neck of the woods. That dude had references that checked out. He contacted a lot of my friends. I got in a fight with one of my friends. They said he didn't do it. He was such a great guy. F--- you! People snap. You can't judge someone by what you think you know about them. There's always something going on that you don't know about.

"There are nuts in every walk of life, but you are putting yourself in a risky situation when you can't move. You're alone with someone and you can't defend yourself."

Do you like being in that situation?

"It depends. I go through phases. It's a trust issue. If I'm working with someone I trust, I love nothing more... I like that little bit of fear. I like feeling really really free because I have no responsibility or accountability because I am completely not in control."

What do you love and hate about the sex business?

"I love the money, the glamor. I like being recognized. I like the attention. What I don't like is not being able to s--- right. When you're doing a lot of anal and you are constantly doing enemas and you're fasting and you're taking all these different pills, exlax, and it screws up your internal system. You don't really enjoy a nice s--- until you can't really have one."

Your husband was freaked out by your work in the sex industry?

"Yes. He's very conservative. He doesn't even watch porn. He tells me he's never even masturbated. He knows me well enough to know that you can't tell me anything. I know everything. Eventually I might figure out, you were right! But there are no plans to stop.

"I want to do it as long as I can. I work with a little company in Erie, PA. We produce some of our own movies. My idea is to learn enough about the business that I'll be able to be on the other end of it."

How has sex work affected you?

"Every day my perception of right and wrong changes a little bit. It is so weird to unknow the things that I know now. It's getting harder to have a grasp of reality. It's harder to center myself. Things that I was close-minded about I am very open-minded now. I get laid a lot more."

Do you enjoy it as much?

"I do. I feel like I really understand it now. I get more things. I'm more comfortable with my body than I've been in my whole life."

What do you understand now that you didn't understand before?

"I'm more comfortable being naked. I am more comfortable trying new things, things that I thought were perverted and sick before. Now, I'm like, right on! I've gotten meaner. I'm not as sweet as I used to be. I'm less patient.

"I understand that no matter how sick it is, there is a group of people who get off on the same thing you do."

How is it getting into all these Internet discussions and controversies?

"Internet discussions are the dumbest thing a porn chick can do. It's terrible for your self-esteem. You can hurt your career. People want to get to know you as a person. They want you to be part of the conversation and not just in there promoting s---. So you get on a one-on-one level with people and they get comfortable with you. Then they tell you what they really think. And they get brutal. And you reply as a person. And they get mad at you for not being a professional. They say, this is going to hurt your career because you responded this way. But you stopped thinking about it as promoting your career.

"They say, we want you to be down to earth and part of the conversation, but we don't want you to fight back when we attack you. Half the time they just try to get a reaction. Let's see if we can jack off Kami today.

"There's a lot of ego stroking that goes on. That's 90% of why all porn whores do this. Because they want the validation. They want people to fawn all over them and tell them that they are the best and that hundreds of people are thinking about them. I know that's a huge part of it for me. I like getting that on the Internet. But when you read the negative stuff, one negative comment counteracts 100 positive ones. And then you get insecure and you don't want to go back in front of the camera because you're worried that you look bad and that you're making a fool of yourself. You have to keep it in perspective. You have to remember that some little faggot in Hobboken is not going to affect your career."

I remember Mike Albo taking you to task for your grammar.

"It does suck. He's 100% right. I do not have a good grasp of the English language. This is why I am not a doctor. People should be grateful that I am in porn because I can't do that much damage there. I'm a total dork. I can't spell to save my life. My grammar's atrocious. Fortunately, those aren't skills I need. He was right. That's why it hurt my feelings.

"English was always my worst subject. I always did well in math and science. I read a lot. It gets worse. The longer you go without having to form complete sentences, the worse it gets. And when you surround yourself with idiots, you start to talk like an idiot. The lowest common denominator that we all seem to sink to.

"I love history but I did bad in it. I've never been able to get maps. It seemed like there was always some kind of map portion on every test I had in history. Even to this day, people try to draw a map for me. They're talking to the wrong girl. I can't understand that."

What did you learn about men from working in this industry?

"I still haven't figured them out. I've learned that men lie about what they want and expect and what they actually do. When you get into porn message boards, you see a whole different side of guys. Something you would never see if she was just dating and in the real world. You see on boards -- you know what would be really great? If the whore got pissed on. You're never going to be at Fridays on a date with a guy and he's going to say, I'd really like to piss on a chick. It just doesn't happen.

"I've learned more about guys' sexual fantasies and what they really like. But I still don't really understand anybody, male or female."

Do you get depressed about human nature?

"Sometimes you learn more than you want to.

"I obviously don't want to be like the dried up old hag that everybody's laughing at. But I love it [sex work]. I have so much more freedom in my life. I'm really happy that I make a lot of money.

"I used to work 72-hour weeks. Seven days in a row. I used to bust my ass and I never got the kind of attention and gratitude that I get with what I am doing now.

"I was a retail manager for American Retail. I became new point person. I would go into areas for my company and hire the management team and hire the staff, deal with the contractors during the last phases of construction, make sure everything met code, train the staff, set up the physical inventory of the store, be there for the grand opening, and then leave. It was very demanding. You have to be the best of the best to do that. You have to represent the entire company. The training you do and the people you select is going to determine the whole success of that retail location.

"It was very rewarding because you could see the results. But it was very demanding. And there wasn't the gratitude. Nobody would come up to me in a mall and say, hey, you're the point person from Canada.

"I was salaried, $42,000 a year and bonuses. That was all I needed to live in Pittsburgh. To have a brand new car and to live in a nice place and get what I wanted in the supermarket.

"I love LA for short periods of time but it wears me down. By the end of my trip, I'm usually pretty negative. It's a whole different lifestyle. I could live in LA like I live here - very basic and sequestered. But when I'm there, I tend to go out a lot and have a really good time. I socialize more. It's almost over-stimulation. And it is very expensive to live there. I could buy six houses here and rent them out and live off that for the rest of my life for what I could buy one sh---- house in LA. Taxes are lower here."

Do you find yourself partying a lot in LA?

"I work a lot. When you do anal scenes every day, that wears on your body. I do party a lot when I am there. Not as much as some people do but more than is probably recommended by your doctor."

How many anal scenes a month does your doctor recommend?

"I never bring it up but I wonder. When I'm at the doctor, he's got to look at my ass and know I'm a whore. There's a point where you can probably tell by looking.

"There's one girl in the business, God bless her, and you don't even have to touch her and her s--- opens up. I was a huge porn fan before I ever went into it. I used to always notice that about her. She was like a fricken garage door. I don't know what's going on back there. But I'm just expecting the doctor to tap my leg and it opens up like a garage door."

What's it like trying to have a relationship while you're working in this industry?

"It's a disaster. It's successful for a lot of people but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. I'd say, get in, get your money. Have a good time. Then, when you retire, have your relationship.

"I'm very competitive and jealous. That does not fly [in porn].

"I'm kinda in one now. I met a guy on one of the message boards. I came out here and I worked for him. Then, the next couple of times I came out, I stayed with him. We talk on the phone every day. We love each other, but it is one thing to know something in your mind and it is another thing to control the way you react. I know he loves me in his mind. But then the way he reacts to the situation doesn't go with that."

Is he having sex with girls?

"Yes. I don't really care about that. He can f--- as many girls as he wants. But I don't want him to eat with them. I don't want him to take them to the movies. F--- all the f---ing whores you want. I couldn't care less. It doesn't mean anything. But you take them to the mall shopping with you? That's kind of a betrayal."

What kind of guy goes to the mall shopping?

"The kind of guy who goes into porn."

Are there certain physical acts you will only do with someone you love?

"I don't do creampies. But when I'm f---ing, I don't really think clearly. If it is good sex, my brain just turns off completely. Things I would never do normally, I couldn't care less. I just lose my grip... I've done a creampie.

"I find kissing more intimate because you have to look at them. You can f--- in doggie all day and not even know what the person looks like. The things that are the most intimate don't have anything to do with sex. If you sit on the phone and talk to someone for six hours. Or if you lay in bed and talk all night long about what you are going to do in ten years, I think that is a bazillion times more intimate than sticking anything anywhere in a person's body."

How many men have you slept with in your life?

"I don't know. I asked the guy I'm seeing. He said 300 or so. I said you're a man whore. That's terrible. He said, you've been in 50 movies. I slept with 30 people before I turned 15. I was a little tramp."

Did you catch any diseases?

"No."

What's the last book you read?

"Lord of the Barnyard. I don't read as much as I'd like to. Anything I do, I overdo. When I read a book, I can't have people around me. I have to sit down and read the entire book."

What's your relationship to drugs?

"Of course I'm going to say, I never do drugs. I'm not like that.

"I never do drugs when I'm in Pittsburgh. I don't even drink here. When I'm in LA, I dabble here and there in different things. I wouldn't say I'm a junkie. I've never done crystal meth. I've never done crack. I love Vicodin. I never knew anything could make me so happy. They're so yummy. I try to not abuse them.

"I did coke when I first came to LA. Wow, this is great. Then I did it three more times. Wow, this kind of sucks."

If you were the czar of the porn industry, what changes would you institute?

"I would not have anyone booked based strictly on their looks. Someone who was a complete dead f--- and didn't want to be there would not be able to get a job. If you flaked, and someone wasn't dead in your family, you would never work again. You would not get a second or third chance because you've got nice natural boobs that sells boxcovers. The girl with the best scene would get the boxcover.

"I would have make-up and lighting on every set. You wouldn't have to arm wrestle for your talent copy. If you ever got caught with a fake test, you'd never be able to work again."

Kami got her breast implants at 19. "I never knew I was going into porn. Of course I wanted to show them but nobody ever asked to see them. You are more marketable if you have natural breasts. I realize that they are not appealing and that they are not marketable but they've changed my perception of myself enough to be naked in front of a lot of people.

"I used to be more active on the boards but it is starting to wound my pride too much. It is stuff that I already think and when someone else says it, I feel like I am making a fool of myself. That I am out there and I'm not that pretty and they know I'm not that pretty and they're laughing at me for even attempting... It just plays on your insecurities.

"I'm trying to post less so that I read less. But I am seriously addicted. I can't stop. I've tried a dozen times. I've blocked it from my computer. I will sit there and fricken unblock it. It's not healthy.

"These girls who don't even know how to turn a computer on, I think they're really blessed. They only hear the nice things that people say to their face. Ignorance is bliss."