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Some believe that wild wanking to X-rated videos causes madness. "I've noticed that porn can do strange things to me," writes Faceman911 on RAME. "For example: Sometimes I go to great lengths to procure porn. I've gone way out of my way to visit adult shops in some really shitty parts of town. Places I would normally avoid. Ironically, the only other time I go to these parts of town is when I want to buy marijuana (Yes, I'm in college, and you have to smoke pot here -- it's the law).

"I've rented and bought porn flicks that I knew ahead of time were gonna suck. But because there was some hot trollop on the box, I got it anyway. Like the first time I saw Nikki Tyler. All rational thought evaporated, and I just had to see her f---. So I bought some stupid movie with her on the cover. Of course later (i.e. after I came), I recognized this was a poor judgement call on my part.

"When I'm renting porn, I can spend a ridiculous amount of time deciding what movie to get. I'll scrutinize boxcovers again and again until my dick finally says, 'OK, let's get this one over here.'

"Sometimes looking at all those shiny boxes with all the tits and asses and pussies just begging to be jerked off to, makes me feel dizzy and almost like I'm standing outside myself, watching yet not controlling my actions.

Well, I guess it's either that or I'm suffering from an odd, erection-induced loss of blood to the brain.

"Finally (and this is the kicker), right after my homerun leaves the ballpark, so to speak, the images on the TV screen, which seconds ago embodied raw primal lust and pure sexual debauchery, images that threatened to overload my circuits, now are nothing but a meaningless jumble of E.C.U's of random body parts put to bad music and poorly dubbed moans. But 20 minutes later, the same jumble starts to again become more...interesting.

"I submit that porn-viewing is a type of addiction -- harmless, as addictions go, but an addiction nonetheless. We don't just *watch* porn; we *use* it. And I think what fuels this addiction, primarily, is testosterone. Which would explain both why women don't like porn nearly

as much as men and why after I come, the movie is rendered unwatchable. But testosterone can't account for everything. Why, for example, even when I'm getting regular sex (with someone else, wiseass), do I still feel

a separate need to watch porn? I turn this and other related questions over to greater minds...

Steve De Rosa: "Well, I regularly get in touch with my feminine side, but I am glad that I am a man. I am not 'excessive' in my emissions of testosterone (so I would be allowed in Canada), but I do find that viewing erotic movies, whether soft- or hard-core, stirs something

in my soul (and my genitalia).

"I tend to bond with the performers. But not necessarily with their roles, but rather with their psyche. I truly love and respect these people who perform these sex acts before a camera. My attitude toward their actions waxes and wanes. Could I perform to their standard?

"You need not apologize [for watching porn]. If I wrote that I viewed seven movies a week, or that I put in a six-hour comp and zipped through the entire thing in one (gloppy) episode, I wouldn't retreat to this.

"Right now, my feminine side is driving me: I must have a hot fudge sundae. I need a hot fudge sundae. However, look at the time when this was posted. Do I know of a 24-hour ice cream shop (even in Chicago)? No, I don't. So, sadly, I will have to do without the hot fudge sundae.

"But my porno-viewing habits can be chameleon-like. There are times when I want to watch a story line with plausible people acting like performers in other entertainments, but with erotic sex. It's then that

I put in a Golden Age classic like "High School Memories."

"Then there are times when I want to be jolted by full-tilt swiving, loud, bold, and with the jism flying all over the place--the gloppier, the better. My favorite climax is when the cum is shot into a lush pubic area and then rubbed in. Ooh ooh ooh. For times like this, I can't forget the Dark Brothers "Devil In Miss Jones Pt. 3", in particular, the scene with Vanessa Del Rio. If you can view this scene without being aroused, then Dr. J. Kevorkian has already been to your domicile.

"Then, there are times when I actually want to view something as scandalous as a portrayal of non-consensual sex. I would never consider acting out what I saw on my screen. But, it bothers me tremendously that filmmakers are facing fewer freedoms to depict something now than they were 25 years ago. I'll borrow this cliche: 'They can have my videocassette of Expensive Taste when they pry it from my gloppy, dead hand.'"

Another poster: "I am unable to identify a root need for pornography. I know some of the things I like about pornography, however. I like the garish outfits of PVC and thigh-high boots from a Dark Brothers or Ninn production, or the ridiculously small bikinis and one-piece string-swimsuits from a Stagliano flick.

"I enjoy the preposterous scene of half a dozen oiled women giggling at a Holliday holiday outing while plunging into each other with bright pink strap-on dildoes. Debi Diamond stretching herself into impossible positions to beg for jism… Jeanna Fine lovingly smoking pole, is an extreme turn-on. As is watching Rocco treat Nikki Dial or Jenna Jameson to his generous cock, or seeing Peter North cover some lass's torso with his homemade frosting.

"A well placed facial is a joy to watch, and I don't even mind too much if they loop it. I may not like all-anal flicks or gang-bang features, but only because I want that as a dessert element, a small part of the explicit meal.

Watching a feature, and anticipating the second or third male to enter the room, is almost like an adult Easter-egg hunt. All these aspects, though, point to one thing to me. Pornography is not about sex, or even fantasy. It is about pornography. The repetition of it all, the formula productions, the external cumshots, the women wearing heels and nothing else, all tell me this is part of some other world: the world of porn. I like that world, or at least the occasional visits to that world. I like the trim, attractive, eager and promiscuous women. I like their wanton behavior (facials, multiple partners, interracial, etc.). I like their clothes. It's a prurient theme-park, with recognizable characters and familiar rides.

"That's part of the ritual, part of the immersion in this "other" world. Staring at walls of glossy boxes, with nurses in severely short labcoats, and hookers in day-glo hot pants.

"Which may be why there is so little plot in porn. Who needs it, really? A setup builds tension, anticipation; it arouses. Who needs that when you've had the rush of parking in a rough neighborhood, avoided the gaze of passersby and ducked into a shop? Staring at all those covers, making a

choice and rushing home is tension. I don't need a believable character, I rented this for Brittany O'Connell.

"When I watch a skin flick, I'm not looking for sex. I want pornography." (RAME)

Faceman: "On Sat, 17 May 97, I wrote a silly mock news item about the Vivid Girls appearing in a clothing advertisement that ran in Spy Magazine. When I first saw it, I was surprised that anyone, even a "hip" clothing company like FreshJive, would use porn stars to sell their product. At first I thought I'd just post to let people know about it in case anyone wanted a copy of the ad for themselves, as the girls did look hot (esp. Chasey and Jenteal), even if they aren't very good at porn. But something about the ad bothered me. It seems that porn is becoming "chic". Is mainstream acceptance around the corner? This made me say hmmm..., and then, in a roundabout, satirical way, try to ask the question: What prominence, or level of respect, does porn deserve in our society?"

Faceman911 wrote: "Citing increased Q ratings, post-feminist attitudes regarding sex, and a widespread acceptance of pornography among younger Americans, some analysts feel that a mainstream embrace of porn may be as little as a few years away. This public approval may spark a "gold rush" mentality, as citizens presently employed in more mundane occupations are drawn in large numbers to an industry built entirely on the promise of young, eager female flesh. Such an influx of new people would produce a ripple effect, resulting in ever-greater respect and admiration for those willing to align themselves with "X". School-age children will add "porn star" to the list of things they want to be when they grow up, and Chasey (Lain) will replace Chelsea (Clinton) as the number one role model for young girls. Boys, who all secretly want to be porn stars anyway, will stop trying to "Be Like Mike" and start trying to "Cum Like Pete"." (RAME)

Faceman911 comments: "I'm not exactly going out on a limb by saying that what we like best about porn flicks is that you can jerk off to them. I don't think porn movies have much merit from a cinematic standpoint. Even the best

hardcore film is still not a very good film. Because its purpose is singularly sexual, porn can't be considered just another genre, like Action or Sci-Fi. And like other sexually explicit entertainment, I think porn will (and should) remain on the fringes of polite society.

It has nothing to with, "A nation that refuses to admit it jacks off, shouldn't be surprised when Congress cuts off its dick," as Margold is fond of saying. Porn is crude. It is vulgar. That's what makes it so good. But at the same time that's why it will never be considered an

appropriate topic for dinner conversation. What I was hoping to point out in my "article" is the ridiculousness of taking porn acceptance to the extreme. Do we *want* attitudes about porn to become so casual that, say,

Cort Knee wouldn't be out of place as a guest on Letterman? Just imagine:

"Dave: OK, Cort Knee, we got a clip from your new movie, Cum Slurping Whores. Will you set it up for us?

"Cort Knee: Sure, Dave. I think this is right after my co-star, Max Steiner, who's a real pleasure to work with, has shot his load all over my face, and now he's telling me to blow bubbles with his cum like the little

teenage slut that I am."

"Shouldn't there be some social stigma attached to a job where you get paid to f---? Is porn so legitimate that you'd want your wife, or son, or daughter, to get involved with "the industry"? And do we really want to make mainstream media stars out of people who are, lets face it, just glorified prostitutes and pimps? What would THAT say about our attitude towards sex and females in America?

"Let me restate that I like, and support, pornography. I'm not an old conservative grouch; hell, I'm still in college. And its great that consumers and fans of X have a forum like this to discuss porn and the issues surrounding it. I figured some of you would want to talk about

stuff other than just, "Will I ever get to see Nikki Dial take it up the ass?" The answer to which, of course, is, "probably not, unless you start dating her."

Rob A.: "There are certain ideas, thoughts, forms of expression, "art," which will always stay on the fringes of mainstream society, and well they should. Yes, more successful artists may draw upon these fringe elements to create ideas which are more acceptable to the mainstream.

Yes, we can look at the history of these fringes and see something of the shifting mores of society. But it will be a scary day indeed when little girls across America add "porn star" to the list of doctor, lawyer, engineer, etc. It might be different if the nature of porn changed, but those very changes would bring it into the mainstream and

another, more unrefined element would simply rise to fill its vacant space.

"The rebuttal which is always voiced to this particular argument is the attitude of Europeans. But just because most Europeans have a more lax attitude about sexual mores doesn't mean they embrace pornography whole-heartedly. I think that most European society has resigned

itself to the inherent weak-willed nature of man and regards porn as a necessary evil.

"And perhaps that's what it is. Sort of like alcohol-- I hate what it does to me in the morning, but I wouldn't want to live without it."

The Director on RAME: "The industry could not weather becoming mainstream -- they'd actually have to do some work and put out some good product -- imagine everything looking like a Private film! It boggles the mind!

"Keeping this less than respectable allows them to put out shitty product, because, face it, 90% of the people aren't going to complain that their copy of Nasty CumEating Sluts has some tracking problems because they used shitty tape for duplication... but those same people just might

complain if their copy of Ace Ventura:Pet Detective was in such poor condition.

"I yearn for an outlet where porn stars could appear to the porn-buying public to plug their new films, etc. I would love to see a People magazine type of weekly devoted to porn. With 8000 titles a year coming out, that's 150 titles a week to keep track of! Plus, it would give us the

much sought after "behind the scenes" glimpses of porn stars... tours of their apartments, tailing them to a kickboxing tournament, etc.

"We could learn about the Fan of the Year and what it takes to become same (past the $25 entrance fee). We could have human interest stories about how... I don't know... porn helped a small boy get awoken from a coma (it's better than another Elvis sighting); we could learn about the

writers -- who is Cash Markman and how can he write so much?"

Pat Riley takes issue with Rob's comment that "most European society has resigned itself to the inherent weak-willed nature of man and regards porn as a necessary evil."

Pat hates "this sort of statement, oft-quoted or mimiced in opinion journals such as The National Review. Why is man "weak-willed" because his reproductive advantage is promiscuity? Why is a female better because hers is constancy and nurture? Or should I say hers is

deceit--maybe that word would put it in a nastier light. To go further, hers is exploitation of the male, make him work for his "pleasure" (creating a logically difficult situation that requires much feminist PC waffling because it implies that there is no pleasure for the female), tease and then refuse to deliver, running into the arms of

the much-derided (by the feminists) conservatives who have their own axe to grind in the area. (The conservative axe is to put the male in the situation of constant unsatisfied lust so that he will have to earn sufficient money to attract a female in the "proper" manner, thus making the economy go round.)

"There is no inherent value difference between the male's desire for continuously changing sexual partners and the female's desire for one in permanence. They are simply two sides to one reproductive coin. As a practical statement, when we want large numbers of children and

females are not able to provide for them with their own resources, we should prioritize the female reproductive advantage. When we don't need large quantities of grunt labor and females are able to compete on a generally equal basis in the work force, we should prioritize the male advantage." (rec.arts.movies.erotica 1997)

12/25/00

Watching Porn As A Substitute For Sex

It has come to my attention that many readers of l-keford.com use porn as a substitute for sex. Perhaps I should focus my web site more on the consumers of porn and what they experience when they masturbate, rather than on the production of porn?

Methuselah writes on RAME: I know this will open a Pandora's box of comments but I wanted to address an issue with this group that I don't often have the opportunity to discuss with people.

It disturbs me that many people view those of us who rent/purchase porn (whether it be video or printed material) as needing to buy porn because we don't get enough (or any) sex. I think the idea is absurd, I think the public's opinion of porn needs to be tweaked in many places. I'd bet half of us feel we get "enough sex", another percentage feel they NEED more, and another percentage feel they would want more if they could get it.

As someone who purchases about two new videos and five magazines a month, I still only resort to porn perhaps once a year as a true "subsitute" for sex. Most of the time I shop for (and watch at home) porn with my girlfriend and frankly a good part of the time it leads to BETTER sex for both of us than without the visual stimulation.

Porn as educational or even a marital aid is certainly a truth no matter how "taboo," "exotic," or "hardcore" the material seems. I have fetishes and have had girlfriends with unusual ones as well and we have been able to better enjoy and share our fetishes with videos and magazines that show them.

I would be lying if I said I did not learn from watching videos, I do, and a couple of my girlfriends over the years have admitted they did as well. So be proud that you have a one-up advantage over the next person when you bring a new lover to bed...you are better prepared, know what you want, and can make the person enjoy themselves more because you are educated by porn and fueled by images.

Headlover writes: The more satisifed I am the less porn I watch. But I also watch only little bits when I feel sexual opportunities aren't near on the horizon. I'll put in a tape and get myself off in a short period of time. So at both extremes I spend less time watching.

On the other hand I suspect if I were to lose my touch at attracting good partners, I would watch more, take longer, and savor the fantasies. My guess is very little sex leads to lots more porn. The time I watch a lot is when I am alone, feeling horny, and anticipating being with a fine woman. I enjoy working my self up, cooling off, on and off...making very sure I don't cum. It puts me in a great mood when the real thing begins. Since my relationship with most women usually involved a lot more than sex, and they don't watch porn with me (with one exception), this also eliminates the time or opportunity to watch.

There is one significant additional factor that drives up my desire to watch porn. My particular obsession is getting BJs. After the girl is gone, how much I watch tends to depend on how the BJ experience was, regardless of how terrific the sex was overall.

One girl is an exception. She is enthusiastic about fulfilling my obsession and does like to watch my collection of BJ porn. We will watch a while, cuddle and warm up. When we finish watching what we both feel is a particularly hot scenes she will invariably go down on me. Generally she will imitate the style/approach of the girl on the video. We do this, with me returning the favors. Sometimes we do this for hours, switching the tapes on and off. When she goes, porn doesn't cross my mind for many days. (Alas, she only visits every few months on business, so I do get back to other girls and a good share of porn.)

Pat Riley writes on RAME: Yeah, sure. And we all know the stud in school who kept telling us how he was getting laid all the time, mostly with movie stars, models, and the like. Must be the truth, eh? Doesn't matter that no one ever saw evidence of it. He wouldn't lie, would he? I guess I must be unusual.

Last time I checked the Alyssa Milano look-a-like wasn't waiting for me in my bed. In fact, I can't ever recall screwing an Alyssa Milano look-a-like but I'd certainly like to. OTOH I can fantasize, usually when some good looking girl screws up and enters the industry for a short time, that I'm screwing her. This sounds awfully like "I'm not getting enough sex (understood...) of the right type and quality at the right cost, (understood...) zero."

Let's see. Winter essay: "What I learn (have learnt) from Porn" by Patrick Riley:

Back when I was around 12 or 13 (I don't really remember) I learnt that if I rub my dick and think about the little cutie pie next door that I glimpsed in her bra and panties through her window, within a couple of minutes I had this great feeling and made a mess on the bed/couch/floor. No porn involved there.

About the same age I had the distinct impression that there must be hole somewhere in those females that was a good substitute for a hand. Maybe some sex education class or a book or maybe the other guys told me about the VAGINA, the center of all male pleasure, and the use of which is guarded like Fort Knox by most females. No porn there unless you count the illustrations in otherwise dull sex education books or the National Geographic images of the latest-to-be-discovered Papuan stone age tribe and you really can't count the glimpse of the camel toe (TM- Torris) that some not too bright girl was exposing in her too flimsy bathing suit. Somehow one knew that the holy of holies was between the knuckles of that camel toe. Anyway no porn, not even written at this point.

In the never ending struggle to insert your dick between the knuckles of that camel toe you soon found out that the females had a set of rules as to just who they would allow to place their dicks there and they weren't about to tell you, a scumbag male--lower than the doggie-doo on the sidewalk--just what those rules were so you tried without much success to find out but even when through pure happenstance you actually arrived at the holy of holies you couldn't repeat the same technique with other females.

So not much information (or education) was necessary once you arrived at the site of Nirvana--it sort of comes naturally--but you could have used (and still could use) some help in getting there. Let's see if porn provided any.

Despite the common knowledge that pizza boys and pool guys along with hamburger flippers and shoe salesmen are among the losers of society, according to the porn industry these are the guys who have no trouble getting laid. Just clean the girl's pool or pretend to and she'll be only too happy to give you a ride. In fact she's so sexually aroused by the guy's occupation that she'll throw all caution to the wind and do him beside the pool where the UPS guy, the meter reader, or the nosy neighbors can all see them. We also observe that this happens when the pool guy hasn't more than enough money for gas to get him back to his hovel but the girl is the wife or daughter of a multi-millionaire judging by the house she inhabits. Lesson from the porn industry: become a pool guy and get laid.

Or, you could become a professor at a college (or high school if we go back to the eighties instructional movies). Never mind those news accounts of professors having their life ruined by playing around with one of their students. According to the porn industry every co-ed is anxious to get better grades and pass her class and is willing to screw her professor to do it. Oh, and she loves it, especially if he rams it up her ass and then cums all over her face. Lesson from the porn industry: if you're a professor your students will be happy to screw you; if you're not, become one, the sex is unending.

And we all know that every stepfather out there is screwing his stepdaughter. Either the mothers never find out or they don't care. Never mind people like CPS and the likelihood that blabbermouth step-daughter will tell her teachers or her mother especially when you won't buy her the Ferrari for her birthday.

Lesson from the porn industry: If you have a nubile stepdaughter be like Herschel Savage and screw her. If you have an inclination towards the really young, especially those dressed in white anklets and high heels the best places to look are in the local park or the public toilets where you might find them smoking or doing something mildly naughty. Naturally they'll succumb to pressure and allow you to shove your dick (and assorted gynecological instruments) up all their holes with nary a complaint. They'll even let you pee on their face. If their mother finds out that's no real problem. Instead of calling the authorities she'll just turn up at your place where you can molest her too. Lesson: If you have the urge to screw underage girls (that's Jon Benet Ramsey underage) no problem; just do it. You'll never get caught.

But most of the time you'll find (according to the porn industry) that the presence of a male (any male) is enough to have the girl magically appear naked with her legs open ready for the almighty schlong. They require no foreplay apart from some perfunctory rug munching, and they certainly don't require you to take them out on a date, nor to actually talk to them. Funnily when you try this lesson in real life the girls' clothes don't magically disappear and they don't seem to be quite so hot to trot. That's just you though.

In porno land girls just love huge dicks. In fact, despite their lack of knowledge of the size of the guy's dick before sex, they know by osmosis (or somehow) that they're in the presence of THE HUGE DICK and they just can't wait to have it rammed inside their holes. Ignore the grimacing and expressions of pain and the attempts to limit penetration (see Lexington Steel and cutie pie Stephanie in Black Cheerleader Search #41); cries and actions of this kind are more evidence of how much they like it. Alternatively all girls in real life are masochists and just love pain.

Similarly in real life you know that girls are pretty sensitive about their face and hair but according to the porn industry they just love to have the white sticky stuff all over them. It's even better when it goes in their eye. Contrary to your experience and the statements off-camera by the porn girls it can't possibly hurt (like hair shampoo) or if it does see above about all females being masochists. Learn the lesson: splooge on the girl's face and she'll love you for it.

While you're learning how much the girl likes monster dicks, think about how much more she'd like it if you rammed it up her asshole. Despite comments by wizened old hags on this group and your own personal experience (if you've even summoned up the courage (stupidity?) to try) all girls love to have a hard two inch diameter fence post stretching their bung hole. Many also love the preparation beforehand and the possible defecation problems afterwards. See above about all girls being masochists.

Ignore your personal experience that girls are extremely reticent about sex and/or nudity in public...anywhere anyone might hear or see them. That's all hogwash. The lesson from the porn industry is that girls love performing sex in front of others. Heck, they love performing sex with multiple males at the same time. Never mind that dating crap and the concentration on the idea of "boyfriend" (singular); all girls are really sluts and love it. Even better if there's one up the ass at the same time as one in the pussy. (See above about fence posts up the asshole.) This will give any woman an orgasm in super quick time.

You don't have to worry about that dating business either. According to the porn industry (since about 1986 anyway) no girl ever went out to a restaurant or to the movies on the guy's dollar. You never have to sweet talk them or get them slightly inebriated to have them open their thighs (see above about the magic clothes disappearance).

And they all masturbate constantly. Never mind the statements in Ed and similar from aspiring debutantes that they don't masturbate and the perfunctory inept attempts when they do. That's wrong. Every female is nearly (more?) sex mad than the guys.

Nor are they reticent when it comes to a little g/g. They're all, as one porn director puts it, bi-curious. They build women differently you know that's why they're "bi-curious" and because you're different the idea of having some gay guy shove his dick up your asshole (see above about two inch fence posts) never occurred to you, at least without evincing a shudder.

Geez, I'm sure learning a thing or two about sex and women. After the 10,000 or so lessons I've had, you'd think that not only Alyssa Milano but also Jennifer Love Hewitt would be waiting to use my dick. I know, I didn't catch Chessie's lesson about Rover; I'll have to bone up on that and invite the dog to join us. That'll pull them in.

Lest we get the usual complaints about the "old dog" I might recommend the current commercial from Circuit City wherein a young guy and a girl are on a date and with each statement or action by him a visible counter goes up or down (like a pinball machine) indicating his point addition in searching for the holy grail. Like: looking at another girl (forget the three way) produces a minus 3000 or saying "I'd like to kiss you (not "f--- you" which is what he'd really like to do) but I'll wait until we know each other better," plus 3000. If you could learn anything from the porn industry all her clothes would have dropped off and he and the gang bang boys would be doing her in all her holes by the end of the commercial.

(To any presentable females marking this paper: I'll let you use my dick for an A.)

Live Slow writes: For me at least, I look at porn and porn actresses/actors in much the same way I do "professional" wrestling: I KNOW it's fake, I know that only "highly trained professionals should try this at home," and that a LOT of time, effort, training, and preparation go into making the fantasy SEEM real. The thing I enjoy though is seeing just how far the performers are willing to go for the money, fame, and adulation of fans. In both worlds (porn and wresting) the boundaries are being pushed all the time, often at risk to the participants, in order to create a more visually stimulating product. Actresses like Mila, who are willing to risk all manner of health problems for the sake of being called "the nastiest" or "most hardcore" performer DO, I'll admit, present a false image of women in general. However, it is THE FANTASY that there are women out there in the real world whom are just as depraved as your favorite porn actress, and that they are willing to sleep with YOU, the average guy, that is the turn on to most of us. I would also venture that the majority of porn viewers are acutely aware of the fact that they don't look anything like the actors and actresses on screen as the majority of us DON'T have huge dicks and perfect tits, asses, or abdominal muscles. Again, it is the fantasy that we, ourselves, are the one onscreen doing the deed that makes us such avid viewers. In the end, it is the brain, not the camera eye, that generates the fantasy; porn directors are merely putting on celluloid the "darker dreamings" of their own frontal lobes.

Speelie writes on RAME: For me and for some of my fellow male friends, porn is about stress relief. Sex is about love and lust and relationships, and sometimes just about lust (I'm thinking of my last time in Amsterdam). Porn is about deriving relaxation via masturbation, and is only occasionally a substitute for sex. My job gets quite busy and stressful now and then (whose doesn't, I know), and when the stress goes up, porn is relaxing. And even if I'm getting sex, I still need the relaxation. I wondered if I was unique in that situation, but soon realized that my friends are that way too.

AJB writes: If porn is a substitute for any sense of love or belonging in society, then yeah, that's a problem for that particular compulsive viewer.

Oz writes: I just don't care what the "public" thinks. I'm young, I'm horny, I have plenty of sex, but I'm not f---ing 24seven so, hey, why not pop in the porn? I suppose in a few years I'll start slowing down, then we'll see what I end up with more often!

Pat Riley writes on RAME: I can't conceive of any sex act that either doesn't come naturally or can't be understood in micro-seconds from the news, general fiction, and regular TV. In olden times the substitute was seeing the animals do it.

Yes, unfortunately many (around here, too) see those fantasies as real life. Look at how many guys will post about a girl whose asshole was being stretched to accommodate a baseball-bat-sized dick that "She loved it."